All of the times that I've been away from home for the day, night or weekend Tim has never once called or texted me to complain about how things were going at home. No, "I'm going crazy." or "I was up 4 times with the girls last night." or "Stella had a meltdown." Okay, so there was this one time he sent me a Snapchat of Stella throwing a fit. And to my recollection, I've done the same for him when he's away. Note I said away not at work...he's gotten a lot of "UGH! These girls are driving me nuts today" texts while he's at work. We had never talked about it—it had just become this unspoken rule between the two of us.
And let me tell ya, I LOVE THIS RULE. This rule has let me fully enjoy my time away. I don't feel guilty, I'm not worried about how things are going at home, and I get to fully recharge—and for this introvert who has three little ladies at her feet all day that's amazing. Seriously, if you don't have one like it already, you should think about adopting it as your own.
<--- When mom's away #krenzgirls wear mismatched clothes and don't brush their hair.
I wanted to make sure Tim knew I appreciated him not texting or calling to complain about how things were going, plus I needed him to know not start laying on the guilt trip while I'm away, so I was sure to bring it up the other night. He just shrugged it off as no big deal. Because he's an awesome husband and dad like that. But to me, as the parent that's with the kids basically always, it's super nice to experience a total and complete break from those responsibilities without all the guilty feelings.